Thursday, January 12, 2012

Do you enjoy 'gottacha' moments or a more compassionate citizenry?

If you haven't heard, there is a new book reporting that President Obama's Press Secretary Robert Gibbs reportedly had an explosive communication with another White employee, Jarrett, cursing and using the “F” word to unleash his frustrations. I am not sure Mrs Obama’s part in it but I suggest she not take it personally.

At this point, I only know this.  For me, when anyone communicates anything, it is about what is going on inside them, not about me.  

Now I understand someone communicated some comment or information to Robert Gibbs which stimulated him to speak back.    

I am guessing Mr. Gibbs was wanting ‘something’ in that moment for himself and from his perspective; he was not getting it or perhaps getting something he did not want.  

That day, maybe he wanted acknowledgement for the work he was doing, what he was contributing.  He could have valued his time and was feeling frustrated that he was investing his time and energy on something his heart was not it. Maybe he, another human being like all of us who read this, was frustrated about something else that happened earlier that day.

At times, I too have had all these sentiments and thoughts - haven't you?  

I would like to propose that we start treating each other as the human being we are ‘works in progress.’ That we listen more closely for what people say knowing it is a reflection of what is going on for them and what is important to them.

In my own life, I see I do not communicate clearly enough to be understood by more people, most of the time.  This has become my passion for the last decade.   Up until then, I was taking what others said personally when they were really just letting me know what was going on inside their world - i.e. the world of Robert Gibbs, that day and at that time.     

I don't know what was going to for Robert Gibbs in that moment and I still want a more compassionate citizenry.  Would you be willing to tell me what you think...